refactor NonZero, Shared, and Unique APIs
Major difference is that I removed Deref impls, as apparently LLVM has
trouble maintaining metadata with a `&ptr -> &ptr` API. This was cited
as a blocker for ever stabilizing this API. It wasn't that ergonomic
anyway.
* Added `get` to NonZero to replace Deref impl
* Added `ptr` getter to Shared/Unique to replace Deref impl
* Added Unique's `get` and `get_mut` conveniences to Shared
* Deprecated `as_mut_ptr` on Shared in favour of `ptr`
Note that Shared used to primarily expose only `*const` but there isn't
a good justification for that, so I made it `*mut`.