Count stashed errors again
Stashed diagnostics are such a pain. Their "might be emitted, might not" semantics messes with lots of things.
#120828 and #121206 made some big changes to how they work, improving some things, but still leaving some problems, as seen by the issues caused by #121206. This PR aims to fix all of them by restricting them in a way that eliminates the "might be emitted, might not" semantics while still allowing 98% of their benefit. Details in the individual commit logs.
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