recurse into refs when comparing tys for diagnostics
before:
after:
this diff from the test suite is also quite nice imo:
```diff
`@@` -4,8 +4,8 `@@` error[E0308]: mismatched types
LL | debug_assert_eq!(iter.next(), Some(value));
| ^^^^^^^^^^^ expected `Option<<I as Iterator>::Item>`, found `Option<&<I as Iterator>::Item>`
|
- = note: expected enum `Option<<I as Iterator>::Item>`
- found enum `Option<&<I as Iterator>::Item>`
+ = note: expected enum `Option<_>`
+ found enum `Option<&_>`
```
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