Cleanup `rmeta::MacroDef`
Avoid using rountrip parsing in the encoder and in `fn load_macro_untracked`.
The main reason I was interested in this was to remove `rustc_parse` as a dependency of `rustc_metadata` but it seems like this had other benefits as well.
Fixes#49511.
r? @eddyb
cc @matthewjasper @estebank @petrochenkov