deduplicate infer var instantiation
Having 3 separate implementations of one of the most subtle parts of our type system is not a good strategy if we want to maintain a sound type system ✨ while working on this I already found some subtle bugs in the existing code, so that's awesome 🎉 cc #121159
This was necessary as I am not confident in my nll changes in #119106, so I am first cleaning this up in a separate PR.
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